holiday
2003
December 2003
To friends and family, near and far,
This past March, with Marissa and Katie at Grandma Chandler’s, we
traveled to China to adopt Fu Dekang. She had spent the first ten
months of her life at the Chongqing Fuling First Social Welfare
Institute in Fuling. The rural community sits on the bank of the
Yangtze River that runs through central China. A large portion of her
hometown was submerged when China’s Three Gorges Dam opened in
June. She now goes by the name Claire Elizabeth Huffman. Our timing was
fortunate as the SARS outbreak halted all adoptions for six weeks
shortly after we returned.
Claire was happy and content from the moment we met her. She had a
slight cold and cough, like all the other babies in our group.
Illnesses are difficult to contain when there are fifty babies in two
adjoining rooms. It is share and share alike. There were three
caregivers for those babies when we visited the orphanage, presumably
the normal ratio. All in all, the babies seemed rather content and
quiet. When we visited the orphanage, black vinegar was steaming in the
room to sanitize the air while the children were cruising in wheeled
walkers (the kind that have been banned in the States for years). They
spent a substantial portion of their day without individual attention
so she was delayed developmentally slightly. When we received
ten-month-old Claire, she was unable to sit up unassisted, roll over,
pull herself up, eat solid food, let alone crawl. With just some love and
attention all of that changed and she was sitting up independently
within 2 days, rolling over in about 4 days and attempting to escape
from the hotel crib before we arrived back in the States. It took a few
weeks for her to eat food but sure loved her bottle. She was quite the
chunker and the largest baby within our travel group.
Claire has three words in her vocabulary and seems on the verge of
talking. Although they are not partial to when she gets into their
stuff, Marissa and Katie adore their little sister most all of the
time. They are very helpful, with Katie being the more nurturing of the
two. Katie did teach her how to suck her thumb. Claire’s most
recent feats are climbing out of her highchair, climbing on top of the
table, and pushing the kitchen chairs around so she can reach things on
the counter like her big sisters.
Marissa and Katie attend morning Kindergarten and enjoy school. They
look forward to dragging their wheeled backpacks to the bus stop each
day and riding the school bus to school. Katie definitely needs the
wheels on her backpack as it is almost as big as she is. They are in
separate classes with an almost identical curriculum. The toughest part
is remembering what schedules, papers, and forms belong to which
child—but mom is up for the challenge. We are losing our adult
code language since the girls are starting to spell small words.
We went on an overnight camping trip this summer at the local state
park. Marissa and Katie were so excited to use their sleeping bags,
play with the flashlight and have their own room in the tent. Claire
didn’t sleep a wink since she was too busy jumping on the air
mattress and literally bouncing off the tent walls. She did dine on her
first handful of dirt while on the trip. While camping, Marissa asked
when the bats were coming out to eat the mosquitoes. She was
disappointed when we said there weren’t going to be bats out that
night.
Also during the summer, Marissa and Katie went to ice skating day camp
at the Chiller ice complex in Dublin. The camp included daily crafts,
lunch, group skating lessons and skate time. We were pleasantly
surprised that on after their first lesson they were able to
skate/stand independently. Much different than the back-breaking drag
around the rink that Ken had to do with them last year. They also
continued with another round of swim lessons and, this fall, enrolled
them in a real gymnastics class. While no profound talent has emerged
for any one of them, the girls enjoy these classes immensely.
Marissa tested our parental patience this past year and spent many
days/weeks without television or computer privileges. We are now in the
process of tearing the house apart to look for her misplaced glasses
for a second time within a month. Katie usually is a little more
cooperative but is not above tactical pouting when there might be
something to gain. Ken is so looking forward to having three
adolescent girls in the house at the same time in the not too distant
future.
In June, Ken rejoined the 300 mile Great Ohio Bicycle Adventure around
Dayton. He managed to avoid much of the rain that hit Ohio that very
wet week. With turnabout fair play, Chris and her mom took an extended
weekend to Las Vegas and are looking forward to another getaway next
year. Our tenth anniversary is next year, and Chris is exploring
options for our ten year anniversary. We plan on doing that together.
It looks like Ken’s employer, Applied Innovation Inc., is finally
recovering from the slump in the telephone industry. He finished the
project he had been leading for the past year and he’s enjoying
working on another. It’s good that the layoffs have ceased. He
also has taken up the hobby of web
blogging to no apparent
audience. We have recent pictures of all three girls on Ken’s
narcissistic website,
www.huffmancoding.com.
Chris is still working at the orthopedic practice at Grant afternoons
and evenings one day a week.
Because of an Easter time hailstorm, our house got a make over in late
November and early December. It has a new roof and the siding is no
longer Wedgwood blue but rather mocha brown. The contractors did a good
job, so much so that they seem to have earned the bid on half the
houses in our neighborhood. A few weeks later than usual, the exterior
Christmas light are up, including the recent addition of three nodding
reindeer. Marissa takes great pleasure in turning them on each night.
We are surprised they haven’t been given names.
It has been a good year.
Hoping your year was pleasantly eventful as well,
Ken, Chris, Marissa, Katie, and Claire